The Softest Power: Surrender

Surrender.

It’s a word that can spark resistance, especially in the minds of high-achieving, powerful women. The ones who have built empires, shattered glass ceilings, and carry the weight of responsibility—because who else is going to make sure everything stays in motion?

Surrender can feel like a threat to all that they’ve worked for.

And yet… deep inside, there’s a craving.

A whisper of a desire to let go.

To feel held.

To not be the one making all the decisions.

To rest in the certainty that for this moment, in this space, someone else has the reins.

But surrender isn’t just one thing. It wears many faces, each one a doorway into a deeper truth, a fuller embodiment of self.

1. The Innocence of Being Held

For some, surrender is the space to return to an innocent, soft, open-hearted place—a state where they can simply be. It’s the feeling of being wrapped in warmth, where every craving for comfort and care is met with unwavering presence. It’s the moment when the body releases the weight of the world and sighs into safety.

This kind of surrender is the nervous system exhaling. The return to a primal knowing that you are safe, you are adored, and you don’t have to do anything to earn it.

2. The Release from Control

For those who navigate the world as leaders, CEOs, and creators, surrender is an antidote to the constant state of doing. When your mind is always strategizing, planning, leading—it’s no wonder your body and spirit ache for the opposite.

This is why many high-achieving women crave surrender in the bedroom. When power and control define their external world, the act of giving up control to a trusted Dominant allows for an exquisite release from decision-making. In this space, there are no spreadsheets, no schedules, no endless to-do lists. There is only sensation, presence, and being led.

And for those with feminine energy, this shift out of the masculine DOing into the feminine BEing isn’t just pleasurable—it’s essential.

3. The Surrender to Worship

Then there is the surrender of receiving. The kind where you don’t just let someone take control—you allow yourself to be adored. To be worshiped.

This is not the kind of receiving that comes with guilt or the feeling of “owing” something in return. It’s not about “deserving” because that still suggests earning.

No—this is about being.

You exist. You radiate. And that alone is enough.

To surrender in this way is to finally drop the walls that keep love, devotion, and pleasure at arm’s length. To let go of the conditioned impulse to downplay your beauty, your worth, your magnetism. To allow yourself to be the Goddess, the Muse, the Masterpiece.

4. The Surrender to Your Own Deepest Desires

And then, there is the most radical surrender of all.

The surrender to your own desires—especially the ones that feel too big, too dangerous, too shameful, too much.

The desires that linger at the edges of your fantasies, the ones you hesitate to name (wealth, luxury, self-spoiling) because you’ve been conditioned to believe that wanting them makes you wrong.

But here’s what I want you to hear: your desires are not random. They are a map to your full self-expression.

And the moment you stop resisting them—stop shoving them into the shadows, stop trying to shrink them down into something more palatable—you step into a new level of power.

For many powerful women, control is a survival mechanism. A trauma response. A way to create certainty in a world that once felt unsafe.

And for a time, it works. It builds careers, protects hearts, creates structure in the chaos.

But it is not sustainable.

Especially for those who radiate feminine energy, being in a constant state of doing, managing, and controlling disconnects us from our natural essence of openness, creation, and receiving.

Too long in this energy, and the body begins to rebel. Fatigue. Burnout. Numbness. A sense of disconnection from pleasure, passion, and play.

Surrender is not about weakness. It is a reclamation of balance.

It is a return to flow.

It is the remembrance that you were never meant to hold it all alone.

Many women convince themselves that what they have is good enough—in their careers, in their relationships, in their bedroom play.

But what if "good enough" isn’t the goal?

What if the deepest, richest, most abundant life you can imagine is waiting for you—not in more effort, more control, more pushing…

…but in letting go?

In surrendering fully, deeply, deliciously—to pleasure, to desire, to worship, to the magic of being held.

In opening to everything you secretly crave.

In sovereign pleasure,
Sharon

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